You know the saying “many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart”. For the past 10 + years, I have been fortunate enough to have a group of girlfriends that have been stamping their footprints all over my heart. I didn’t realize how much I was missing the gift of girlfriends until this group of women literally found me (long story, one that we laugh about still to this day).
The beauty of friendship lies in the fact that it is entirely voluntary. There is no bondage of blood or marriage on you; you are friends out of choice! It is not without reason that they say “friends are the family we choose for ourselves.”
Friendship is free of all pretenses and attempts to please anyone. Your true friends don’t care even if you are in your pajamas or are having a bad hair day. They don’t care if you spit food out while you are talking. They would rather enjoy making fun of it and you would love avenging that. You realize that you could share the nastiest of things with your friends and never feel guilty about it. You laugh the hardest with your friends and don’t even need to care about snot while crying in front of them.
What I most treasure about my friendship with these ladies, for lack of a better word, is the feeling of constant. I have the constant reassurance of knowing that at any given time, I can count on any of them (or all of them for that matter) during any situation, to drop what they are doing and come running if I needed them. When a beloved pet dies, they are there to help us bury him because our hearts are broken, when an early pregnancy is lost, they are hugging me hard, when you can’t find your car in the Muny parking lot and have to wait until the parking lot empties, they are wandering around with you, when you get a flat tire in St. Louis and your very calm friend (who worked in the service department at a local car dealer at the time), gets you to a tire shop and tells the mechanic exactly what we need because somebody is freaking out, when a parent passes away and they are easing your pain just a tiny amount; these reasons are just a few of why I know I hit the friendship lottery. When we are in the trenches of life and we get thrown a curve ball, it’s so nice to know they will drop their purses, stand in a circle holding hands in front of a restaurant and pray for you.
It took me a bit too long to realize the value of my friends but the beauty of true friends is that they are there for you, no matter what. You are the smile on my lips when I watch one of my most favorite TV shows and I know that you are watching it too (and we WILL be talking about it the next time we see each other). I suppress a laugh when anyone claims that girls cannot keep secrets. A tear or two slip down when I remember the hugs and heartbreaks we shared. We pray each other through it, love each other through it and stand next to each other through it.
To all of the ladies reading this, I know you must have girlfriend(s) you lost touch with. Get back in touch, reconnect. Life and its responsibilities are never going to pause and give you time. Your friends are your connection with the girl in you. Don’t let go!
Until next time…
With Much Health, Happiness and a Big Splash of Humor,